Anonymous wrote on Tue, 08 September 2009 15:25

ok there's no problem thanks for saying your opionions is there any test online or something easy to access online to help me sort these fealings.

Unfortunatly, I don't think there is any kind of reliable test for determaning something like this online.
That is what a good therapist can help you with once you have the money. However, as Tree said, the public forum may be of great help to you even if it helps you learn what you are not.
Please keep writing, asking questions and reading the threads here, it may help answer some of your questions!

Miri

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Anonymous wrote on Thu, 10 September 2009 14:24

Hi another question. Does all transexual start by becomming a cross-dresser and does all cross-dresser finish to be transexual? Another one is it obvious for a transexual that she his a transexual or is it a hard thing to know. Finally does transexual get sexual pleasure from cross-dressing. Another question now that I think about it For does who became transexual have you had big urge to cross dress before deciding to live as the other sex. Is it OCD if I keep thinking about it always and it start to be difficult to concentrate on anything.

Hi there!
Nice to see you back. I can share my opinion for what is worth;
The short answer to you main question is no, not all cross dressers become transsexuals.
Think of the transgendered community as a large umbrella with several, very different sub-cultures beneath it. There are cross-dressers, drag queens, transvestites, and transsexuals. They are all very different, with different goals and reasons for why they are. Yet, some of them often overlap in regard to some of the external things such as clothing.
Cross dressers, and transvestites often simply like to wear the clothing of the opposite gender, it may have a sexual component or it may not. Often, cross dressers are straight in regard to their sexual preference.
Drag queens, generally are gay men who like to wear women's clothes.
Transsexuals, on the other hand, have a deep down inner belief, that they are in fact, the opposite gender than what is on the outside. We truly believe we are women, with a womans mind, born into male bodies, or, men born with female bodies and often become fixated on correcting what we feel is a mistake of nature.
We truly feel we have the brain of a woman and the body of a man and have the need to have it surgically corrected.
Now do true transsexuals feel the need to cross dress? Some do, some don't. It depends on the individual and often the culture they grow up in. Conservative families look down upon such things, so often the children feel ashamed or like they are doing something wrong if they cross dress or transition. More liberal families often have no such taboos and it can be easier for the kids to come to terms with their being different.
Transvestites, cross-dressers and drag queens generally are not like that. They are men and they know they are men. They don't feel that deep inside, they are truly women who were born with the wrong parts.
Everyone in the community has a different story and there are some who did cross dress before realising that they were in fact, women inside and that is why they felt the need to do so. So whilst I can give you some general observations about the Transgendered Community, there are exceptions and a lot of overlap within the different groups.
I am a transsexual. I am a woman who was born with the wrong parts. I knew when I was four years old, that something was wrong with me, but it took me a very long time, many years to face it and do something about it. I wanted to wear girls clothes, have long hair and play with dolls. My emotions were like a woman's, not a mans. On the other hand, some transsexuals start out acting male and find out much later that it was nothing more than a facade. They were in fact women pretending to be men.
Some transsexuals transition very young, others like me, wait until the emotional pain is so strong that it becomes a life or death situation that must have resolution.
We are each have very different in our experiences, and no two people have the exact same experience, but I hope this generalization helps.

Where do you feel you might fit in under the umbrella?


Miri

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