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I do not allow myself to cry [message #106195]

Sat, 26 June 2010 06:09

Anonymous

Have you ever listened to Gosh Groban sing "Your Still You" ?
The first mistake I made this morning was to play one of his CD's, his music reaches far to deep within me.

So here I sit crying my heart out for a variety of reasons...

I have been really really strong of late, but this morn I have crumbled.

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Re: I do not allow myself to cry [message #106198 is a reply to message #106195 ]

Sat, 26 June 2010 06:35

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Re: I do not allow myself to cry [message #106203 is a reply to message #106195 ]

Sat, 26 June 2010 07:16

Derrie

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"You're Still You" is one of my all time favorites...It makes me cry even when I am in a good mood.

You don't want to allow yourself to cry?? I've been told by several counselors (and friends) that the best way to release your pain....to cleanse your soul...is to cry. It sounds like you NEED to grieve.

I'm not sure what your predicament is.....if you are pre or post transitioning or if you are just now struggling with dealing with gender dysphoria.....but if you are a Josh Groban fan, you will appreciate "Let Me Fall" .......it was very inspirational for me when making decisions.....and it is still guiding light for me today.

You are not alone.

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Re: I do not allow myself to cry [message #106213 is a reply to message #106195 ]

Sat, 26 June 2010 10:07

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Hi Anno,
I am pretty new to the BL but not to the crumbling. One thing that my life is has taught me is that eventually the wall we build that does not allow crying, weeping or tolerate anything other then the persona of societal expectations will crumble. Hon you are human, allow your humanity to come through. Our creator has made us in a way that we need to know pain so that we may also know good. But it is my belief that we were not meant to live in torment. This is something that we create. Maybe we can help at the BL

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Re: I do not allow myself to cry [message #108864 is a reply to message #106195 ]

Sun, 25 July 2010 09:20

Anonymous

A good cry is healthy for the heart and soul.

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Re: I do not allow myself to cry [message #109338 is a reply to message #108864 ]

Sat, 31 July 2010 17:27

Wendy C

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Allow yourself to cry Sweetie, there is no shame in it, only relief.

Hugs

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Re: I do not allow myself to cry [message #138214 is a reply to message #109338 ]

Mon, 18 April 2011 13:27

erica

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I never allowed myself to cry for over thirty years.There was death,destruction,filth,poverty,war,disease,violence etc in my life,I started to cry to years ago when I imploded and have not stopped since, The pain with what my eyes have seen and what my mind holds deep within its memory are now flooding out.The emotions that have been released are cleansing for me,they allow me to be human, I was a machine for so long devoid of feeling just witnessing large amounts of crap in our world and storing it away without dealing with it.Crying has helped me beyond words. It is the most wonderful thing to be able to do. Do your self a favor and let yourself cry, open up the box of pain and let it out honey. Trust me on this please...YOU WILL FEEL BETTER AFTER.
Keeping it all inside is hurtful to you I know I did it forever and a day.I have cried myself to sleep many times and been so woefully upset....i have however always managed to get it together to face another day and deal with my past.I wish for you a good day calm and lovely.Crying is part of being human ,allow yourself some self kindness.
Be well
The Fab.

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